Integrity-The Heart of the Matter


Integrity #5


Our goal in 2016 is to bring our thoughts, words, and actions into CONGRUENCY, HARMONY, and INTEGRITY.

Why is this important?

We become conflicted when we act out of alignment with what we know to be true.

This internal conflict may show itself in emotional eating, sleeplessness, depression, anxiety, generalized discontent, fatigue, dysfunctional relationships, unfulfilling careers, disconnected spirituality, and even illness.

In parts I & II of the Introduction to CULTIVATING C.H.I. in 2016 we discussed the importance of creating and sustaining CONGRUENCY and HARMONY.


“It’s about knowing who you are, what you stand for, and then having the courage to be yourself in every situation rather than only when it’s convenient. It’s about being real, consistent, and CONGRUENT so who you are on the inside is reflected by the way you perform on the outside.”
-Robin S. Sharma

Why is CONGRUENCY important?

“A key ingredient to achieving your goal is to make sure your goals are totally CONGRUENT with who you are as a person. Your head and heart’s desire must match. It’s such an important step in goal achievement and if we miss it, we can end up traveling a long way down the wrong path.”
-Rachael Bermingham

What is HARMONY?

HARMONY is a beautiful balance between mind, body, and soul measured in tender peaceful moments.”
-Melanie Koulouris

Why is HARMONY important?

The goal of HARMONY is to be in agreement, peace, tranquility, and accord. By reducing disharmony we can reduce the negative consequences of living in misalignment or internal conflict.

Today, we complete our INTRODUCTION TO CULTIVATING C.H.I. in 2016 with Part 3:




Integrity #2

INTEGRITY may be a bit hard to define but we all know it when we see it. The word INTEGRITY comes from the Latin adjective integer, meaning whole or complete.

INTEGRITY means wholeness and consistency of character. We are said to have INTEGRITY when our actions are consistent with our knowledge of right and wrong. When we do the right thing based on our values rather than what would be easy or would benefit us in some way.

What are some characteristics of INTEGRITY?

1. WHOLENESS– A person with INTEGRITY lives with the same core values applied to all aspects of his/her life. There are no parts of the life kept separate and treated differently.

2. AUTHENTIC– A person with INTEGRITY is the real deal. They don’t try to be what they aren’t.

3. UNMIXED MOTIVATION- A person with INTEGRITY does the right thing for the right reason,  not because someone is watching. They are motivated by a pure heart.

Integrity #3

WHAT are the benefits of living with INTEGRITY?

1. Confidence. When we live with INTEGRITY we know who we are. There is no phoniness. No need to keep up a front. People will be attracted to the beauty of our truth and our positive glowing energy.

2. Focus. When we live with honesty, we don’t leak energy dealing with the negativity of being misaligned from our truth. We will be able to focus and better see the purpose for our life.

3. Protection. When we make decisions and take actions that are consistent with our knowledge of right and wrong we will not knowingly put ourselves in risky situations that could bring harm to ourselves or to others.

4. Stronger relationships. The number one factor in building the foundation of any relationship is trust. Living with INTEGRITY means living with honesty and keeping your word in all things. This is the heart and soul of any relationship.

5. Professional success. The confidence that comes from knowing our core values and living by them is invaluable in the business world. We will be tested constantly but we can remain true to our values and achieve success on our merit and through our consistent work ethic.

6. Healthy bodies. Choosing to prioritize home cooked healthy meals, getting plenty of restorative sleep, exercising and moving daily, and adding in a meditation practice are all in alignment with our knowledge of what is healthy and good for maintaining our bodies.

7. Spiritual peace. Living out of INTEGRITY is a source of anxiousness and fear. Aligning our thoughts, words, and actions and living from a place of unwavering truth brings a peace that money cannot buy.


Let’s first be clear that INTEGRITY is not about perfection. There is no one capable of perfection on this earth. INTEGRITY is living with pure intention. It is doing our best to live in alignment with what we know to be right and true. We all make mistakes. We all fall short. People with INTEGRITY get back up, remember who they are, ask forgiveness, and move forward. Mistakes only define us if we don’t learn from them and move on from them.


1. We keep our promises. If we say we’re going to do something we must follow through. This includes promises to ourselves. The most soul-destroying promises are those made to ourselves and broken by ourselves.

2. We pay our bills. We must honor our financial commitments. This is being a responsible adult.

3. We don’t speak or listen to gossip. Literally change the course of the world by this one step. Refuse to speak or listen to gossip. Nothing good ever comes from either and much harm is done by this careless selfish act.

4. We do our best at work. Don’t compare what we do to the person next to us and say they only do this or that. Hold ourselves to a higher standard. Always give 100%.

5. We are real with others. Be ourselves no matter who we are with. Don’t put on airs or act out of character. Be authentic. This authenticity gives a confidence that glows from within and is magnetic. This is not trying to be perfect. Simply strive to live by what is honest and true.

Integrity #4

Living with INTEGRITY requires consistency throughout all areas of one’s life.  Do you struggle with staying aligned with your core beliefs in one area more than another?  Spend some time considering where you feel most challenged.  Remember, no one is expected to achieve perfection.  We are bound by our common humanity.  We all struggle.  What is one small shift you can make today to exhibit more consistency in character?

12 thoughts on “Integrity-The Heart of the Matter

  1. Integrity….a very important word….we should all spend time reflecting on integrity…love the quotes! We all need to be encouraged to be who we truly are at our core without fear, especially as women 🙂

  2. very reaffirming! I’ll need to visit this site frequently for moral support! Great job Barbara! And wonderful catching up with you yesterday!

  3. This is such an important topic. You did a wonderful job defining integrity and helping the reader to connect with self about what this really means in our day to day lives.
    Really enjoyed the Benefits of Living with Integrity and the 5 ways to become a person of integrity. Very useful and practical information. Love this site.

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